I went for a leg wax yesterday. And a bikini wax.
And as I was lying there and the beautician was ripping hair from my body by the root and I winced in pain, I asked myself, again:
Why do I put myself through this? Why won't I just settle for a good old razor?
For me, the answer's obvious.
Because I want the result.
I want the smooth skin that comes from waxing.
I want the longer regrowth time.
I want the "I feel amazing feeling" of when I've just had my legs waxed.
And I want the result enough to go through the pain to get it.
Make no mistake, I love what I do. I honestly wouldn't swap this entrepreneurship thing for anything.
But that doesn't mean it's never painful. In fact, I'm frequently having to force myself to get on with what I need to do and do the work. Because, you know...resistance.
Sometimes, the last thing I want to do is what I need to do. Sometimes I don't want to sit down and write another blog post. Sometimes I don't want to share something on social media.
Sometimes I don't want to create anything. Sometimes I don't want to do any of the things I need to do to keep my business running and build it further.
But I do it anyway. I do it even though I don't want to go through the pain of doing it.
And the reason why?
Because I want the result(s).
I want everything that comes from having a successful business. The satisfaction of doing work I love. Of work that feels meaningful in some way. More money. More freedom (because of the money). More adventure. More impact. And all of it on my terms.
Those results matter to me. And I'd go through any amount of pain to get them. I have been through any amount of pain.
And I've come to the rather strange realisation recently that I'm not only willing to go through the pain, but that part of me actually enjoys it. That the challenge is actually a big part of what it's about, for me.
So next time you're feeling the pain of doing the work. Next time you're wondering why you put yourself through it. Next time you're distracting yourself with any number of ridiculous things instead of doing what needs to be done.
Ask yourself, "what's the result I'm working towards?"
And then decide how important that result is to you.
And either continue, or don't. Maybe you'll find you don't want it enough. That's ok too. But you'll need to find something you do want enough.
And when you do have something you want enough to go through any amount of pain to get it, you'll then have to deal with the ultimate and highly annoying paradox that is this:
Know what you want. Know that you'll do anything to get it. And then totally let go of any attachment to the result.
And then just get on and do the work. For the love of the process. For the love of the pain. For the love of finding out how much you're capable of.
Love and courage,