"Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving." - Albert Einstein
"How can I be more balanced?"
"I just want some more balance in my life."
"If I could just find a better balance."
And balance is something I craved myself for a long time too. Too much time spent working, not enough time with friends and family. Too much time working, not enough time spent looking after my health and well-being. And then too much time spent looking after my health and well-being and not enough time spent on work and my business. And what about my emotions? Why weren't they balanced either? Why did it seem that I was either really high or really low? Where was the perfect balance I craved across all areas of my life?
The word 'balance' and the idea of a 'more balanced life' is talked about so much that we just assume that it exists. We have come to accept it as truth and a state of being to strive towards. And yet who amongst us has met the person who has a perfectly balanced life?
These days, when my clients ask me about balance or talk about needing to have more of it in their life, I ask them to consider the outrageous possibility that...
...balance is a myth. It's a lie. It doesn't exist. At least not in the way we think.
"No matter how imperceptible it might be, what appears to be a state of balance is something entirely different - an act of balancing...Seen as something we ultimately attain, balance is actually something we constantly do." - The One Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results, Gary Keller & Jay Papasan
Being out of balance is being in balance
Let me take you on a journey to the seaside...
Over several hours, the sea level rises until it eventually reaches its highest point – high tide. The sea level then falls over several hours until it reaches its lowest point - low tide.
This constant movement of water between high and low tide is the earth IN balance. It is a natural cycle between high and low, with some time spent in between, but always moving towards one or the other. It is a constant balancing act - changing direction as it reaches its extreme point at one end of the spectrum.
And so it is with life.
We are in the constant act of balancing the different areas of our lives and the emotions that go along with them. This balancing act takes us to our extremes in all directions, and as we reach those extremes, we swing back the other way, spend some time somewhere in the middle and then inevitably move towards one of our other extremes.
Far from being something to avoid and eliminate from our lives, this is the essence of life. It is our natural cycle. This being out of balance is actually us in perfect natural balance.