You Can Let Go of the Guilt. Because We All Do Better When You Do Less

You Can Let Go of the Guilt. Because We All Do Better When You Do Less

Even as I write these words and admit to you the vast amount of space some of my days contain, there's that slight, lingering sense of laziness. But it is only slight now. Because deep inside and from endless personal experience I know that the world's got it wrong.

We were taught that "good" was being busy and doing more; working hard and putting in the hours. And we were taught that taking time out, playing, creating, sitting doing nothing at all was selfish and self-indulgent. "Are you keeping busy?" is one of the questions I'm most frequently asked, as if keeping busy were a badge of honour. Success, certainly, required a great amount of doing.

What to Do When Trying to Define Yourself Is Killing Your Spirit

What to Do When Trying to Define Yourself Is Killing Your Spirit

I love bold, bright colours. A Springtime of lush greens, deep purples and vibrant yellows. And I love the delicate pastels of shells on the seashore. Soft relaxing greys, whites, pinks and blues. 

I love hanging out in my yoga pants and I love the occasional opportunity to play the princess.

I'm all for the passionate, lustful kiss and the sweet sweetness of the gentlest brushing of lips.

The Courage to Do Something Different (and Why It Matters)

The Courage to Do Something Different (and Why It Matters)

All of us, over the course of our lives, will feel the call to deviate from the more common path. Something inside of us will be called upon to go left, when it seems that everyone else is going right.

It might arrive as a creative urge, to create something different, in a way that's different, to what the masses around you are creating. Or it might arrive in a deeply felt sense of the "right" thing to do in a particular situation, when the powerful pull of the majority would have you keep quiet and toe the line.

The Effortless Art of Being Seriously Freaking Powerful

The Effortless Art of Being Seriously Freaking Powerful

With just the slightest upward movement of her hips and the simultaneous gentle pulling down of my arm, she could have broken said arm in seconds. That was the armbar we were practising last week in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu (BJJ).

From my perspective, lying on the floor with my arm locked, I could feel the intense pressure and the speed and ease with which it could be broken. From her perspective, there's a feeling of barely doing anything at all. Breaking my arm would have been effortless.

The Only Piece of Life and Business Advice I'll Continue to Give

The Only Piece of Life and Business Advice I'll Continue to Give

I knew I was in the right place when Bill looked around the circle at us and said:

"I don't want you to believe anything I'm saying here. If you don't agree, say so. If there's something that doesn't make sense to you, say so. What I want is for you to find out for yourselves in your own experience what's true."

I've lost track of the number of times I've written on this subject (here's just one example), an indication of just how important I believe it to be and how rare it is to find others who are grounded enough in their own being that they have no need to sell us on their own beliefs.

New Perspectives on Anxiety

New Perspectives on Anxiety

I woke up feeling a little anxious. I'd gone to sleep in a worried state of mind about my website, of all things. I'm in the process of re-writing a lot of the content to better reflect how I see my work following the profound shifts and insights I've had over the last year. However, I've been in that process for months because the insights just keep coming and part of me senses that I simply need to wait.

When You Don't Know What's Next

When You Don't Know What's Next

There's a weird myth that says once you've figured out what you want to do, you've figured it out forever.

But speaking for myself (and the hundreds of people I've coached and been in conversation with), that's rarely true. 

For the vast majority of us, life is a series of experiments. An always fluid, ever unfolding and never static journey of discovering, development and change. 

So when you look to me (or others) and think "why can't I just know what I want to do like she does?", believe me when I say, you're not seeing the full story.

How I Stopped Losing My Life to Sadness

How I Stopped Losing My Life to Sadness

My emotions used to rule my world. Sometimes, my sadness and down periods would overwhelm me for days or even weeks at a time, drowning me in a sort of hollowness I felt helpless to escape from.

I have an image of myself curled up on my bed in my old flat in London, crying all the tears and wondering why life was so hard. So many times I lay on that bed, the emotions sweeping over me like titan waves in a never-ending storm.

And the mantra I carried around? "I'm just an emotional person."

How to Make the Competition Utterly Irrelevant

How to Make the Competition Utterly Irrelevant

As I sit here on my makeshift bed (I have a real bed arriving soon) in my new place, there's really only one thing I want to write to you today. 

And that's to let you know that I understand how sometimes you look at all the people out there in your industry and feel inadequate in comparison.

I understand why, sometimes, you feel like there's no way you'll make it because those other people are prettier, funnier, more articulate, more talented, more experienced, and way better at making friends and connections.